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You’re trying to figure out how to leave your husband.
But you’re probably worried about leaving your husband at the same time.
Leaving your husband can lead to financial, emotional, domestic, and logistical problems.
Storming out in a spur of the moment argument can lead to issues when you file for divorce.
It’s better to have a well thought out strategy when filing for divorce.
The divorce lawyers can help you come up with a strategy to leave your husband.
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Grappling with “Should I leave my husband?” can be a huge internal struggle.
When debating on whether you should leave your husband, you might be asking questions like:
So, you might be wondering how do I know if I should leave my husband.
There are overarching themes to how likely marriages are to break apart.
Marriages that last are headed towards specific goals.
These goals can be as simple as:
Setting goals and working on them together is a strong indicator that the marriage will last.
When there are not specific goals tied to the marriage, there’s not much holding it all together.
When you are likely to leave your husband, it’s because you are basing decisions on fear.
When you are staying in the marriage for fear, it’s not likely to last.
Examples of fear are:
No one can decide for you whether you should leave your husband.
What I will say is that I watched my mom stay in an unhappy marriage for 10 years.
She was miserable.
But she hung on because of fear.
She couldn’t afford to leave him.
She was older and didn’t want to start over.
She was scared.
But when she finally did leave him, she was the happiest she had been in 10 years.
While it was SUPER tough on us to go through that divorce, it was worth it.
And now she has met someone who actually treats her 100x better.
You have to make the decision on your own.
If you’re truly unhappy, is it really worth what you’re going through?
I also ask myself the “what if?”
Telling your husband that you want a divorce is scary.
It’s a fork in the road.
While there is a ton of turmoil temporarily, it leads to being happier long term.
When it comes to telling your husband that you want a divorce, you want to do it tactfully.
When you are facing divorce courts and a co-parenting relationship, you want to be civil about it.
While we cannot tell you EXACTLY what to do, here are some guidelines for how to tell your husband you want a divorce.
Now that you know how to tell your husband you want a divorce, let’s talk about the next step.
The steps for how to leave my husband.
When most people decide to leave their husbands, it’s because they snapped.
There is a lot of pent-up anger, resentment, turmoil, etc. and one event just makes you snap.
But if you are trying to figure out how to leave your husband, it’s in your best interest to come up with a strategy.
That is if you can.
Some wives are in abusive relationships and it’s not safe to stay.
But leaving your husband can be financially, emotionally, logistically, and domestically challenging.
Leaving your husband in the heat of the moment doesn’t even give you any time to prepare.
Where will you go?
What are you going to do?
Leaving all willy-nilly makes it harder on you (potentially).
But having a plan developed with your divorce lawyer will make the complexities of filing for divorce easier.
Let’s talk about how to prepare to leave your husband.
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To prepare to leave your husband, you need to start 2-6 months before you separate.
This gives you time to get things in order and find the best divorce lawyer to represent you.
You may still need to figure things out like:
As you can tell, when you prepare to leave your husband, there’s a lot to figure out.
Here’s the ‘Leaving Your Husband Checklist.”
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When you are preparing to leave your husband, you want to make copies of all of your important documents.
These are copies of documents like:
With those documents, you also want to gather financial information.
When you leave your husband, you’re on your own financially.
When you are preparing to leave your husband, use the 2-6 months to:
If you set this plan up and follow it for 6 months, you’ll be in a great position financially.
It’s going to make you less worried about leaving your husband.
Related: Child Support Laws
When you are preparing to leave your husband, here are some things you need to consider.
And if you have kiddos, you need to take into consideration what you should do for child custody.
The judges want to disrupt the child’s life as little as possible.
When you are moving, make sure that you live close enough to accommodate:
This will enable you to maximize the amount of child custody that you are receiving.
Keeping the child’s life as normal as possible during a divorce is one of the judge’s goals.
When children are involved, you should also come up with your own desired parenting plan.
Note that the fairer you make this parenting plan, the more likely the judge will approve it.
Now that you are prepared to leave your husband, it’s time to start reaching out to divorce lawyers.
(Fill out the form on this page for a FREE consultation.)
You probably aren’t sure what to expect with your divorce lawyer consultation.
Note that when you have a free consultation with a divorce lawyer, you are not obligated to use them.
Some divorce lawyers will pressure you to use them on the call.
But it’s important that you take your time and find the right one.
Here’s what you can expect leading up to and during the consultation.
You will be asked:
Your information is 100% confidential.
Anything you say to the lawyer is between you and them.
They won’t tell your husband, your husband’s attorney, or the judge unless you give them consent.
The consultations last about 30 minutes.
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Sometimes telling your husband you want to leave him can be too overwhelming.
Technically, you don’t have to tell him.
You can just serve him the divorce papers.
And no, serving him the divorce papers does not mean you hand them to him.
Your divorce lawyer will hire someone to serve your husband.
But you may want to tell your husband you are leaving him.
Just make sure that you are in a safe, quiet place.
You’re going to have to sit down and have a discussion with him.
You might as well wait until you’re alone with him and you have time to hash things out.
When leaving your husband, it is a good idea to consult your divorce lawyer on your strategy of breaking the news.
After things have cooled off, it’s time to tell your kids.
It’s best, and healthiest, to tell them with your spouse.
And do not blame each other for anything when telling your kids.
Tell them it’s definitely not their fault.
Related: Grounds for Full Custody of Child
Let’s say you want to figure out how to separate from your husband faster.
The fastest way to separate from your husband is to prepare.
Preparation will speed things up tremendously.
While it’s hard to make your husband be fast about things, you can:
You want to separate from your husband quickly.
So, what are the things we see that slows the divorce process down the most?
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Now you know how to leave your husband and are prepared to.
But what obstacles are you going to face along the way?
If I want to leave my husband, but I have nowhere to go, what should I do?
If you follow the financial plans laid out above, you will be able to afford to move.
This includes paying off credit card debt, saving up for a down payment, and building your credit.
After you spend 3-6 months following the plan, you will be able to move.
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Another common question we get is, “If I leave my husband, can I take my child?”
It depends on what “taking my child” means.
Both parents have equal rights to the children.
Either one of you can take your children at any time.
But if you take the children to an undisclosed location to avoid letting him see them, this can be parental kidnapping.
Don’t do anything that can be considered parental kidnapping.
You may lose custody of your children during the divorce process.
If you take your children, always communicate with your husband.
Tell him where and when the child will be somewhere.
Make sure that you tell him via email, texts, or voicemail.
This way, if he claims parental kidnapping, you have proof that it’s not.
Figuring out how to leave your husband when you have a child can induce waves of guilt.
If you are at this point, you’re probably considering leaving your husband.
And you’re probably staying with him because of the kids.
You don’t want to be responsible for ‘tearing apart their family.’
But, truth be told, many children go through their parent’s divorce and have done just fine.
Children adjust to the situation that they are in.
The biggest thing you can do to make the divorce easy on the child is to have an amicable divorce.
(A contested divorce with kids is the most expensive one.)
And, co-parenting well after the divorce will make the entire process easier on them.
If you want to leave your husband, but you have no money, there are some things we need to fix.
First, what will divorcing your husband cost you?
The major things you need to save up for are:
Let’s talk about how to get your finances in order to be able to afford a divorce.
Follow this list in order and trust the process:
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