Is it normal for my girlfriend to hit me?
In this article, we’re covering:
… And much more.
So, let’s dig in.
If your girlfriend hits you, this is domestic violence.
Your options if your girlfriend hits you are:
Domestic violence deteriorates your mental health.
You should leave the relationship before it turns into domestic abuse.
Take a hard look at your relationship.
It’s tough for a victim of abuse to leave an abusive relationship.
Ask a family member for an honest assessment or seek professional help.
See if your family members have noticed:
The most important thing is to be receptive to the feedback.
Your family members and friends love you and want you safe and happy.
If they are giving you negative feedback, set your ego aside and digest it.
When your girlfriend hits you, she is breaking the law.
She needs to seek professional help to work through anger management.
But, even when your girlfriend hits you for the first time, you should be wary.
Her “healthy way” to deal with her anger issues is to hit men.
Most likely, you will let the first time slide.
But, if your girlfriend hits you more than once, you should either:
She will get charged with simple battery.
There are two reasons that your girlfriend hits you:
It can be tough to distinguish between the two.
Especially if you’re a victim of physical abuse and emotional abuse.
Your girlfriend hitting you is not normal if it’s intended to harm you.
Your girlfriend hitting you is intended to harm you if she hits you during arguments.
Outside of arguments, her using you as a punching bag is also domestic violence.
It doesn’t matter that “you’re a man and you can handle it.”
It’s still an abusive relationship that you need to get out of.
“Without intent to harm” is when you are both happy, flirting, and joking around.
For you to hit a girl and it NOT be legal, you have to:
Hitting a girl in self-defense only applies when harm is imminent.
This means that the girl is using physical violence and attacking you.
You can legally be in “imminent danger” if a girl is hitting you.
Whatever you do, be a reasonable person in this scenario.
Do not resort to violent crimes when hitting a girl in self-defense.
Yes, a man can hit a woman if she hits him first.
“Use of force” (hitting someone) gets excused if it’s in self-defense.
Some states have “stand your ground” laws.
They allow you to use a necessary level of force to “remove the threat.”
Yes, if a girl hits you, you can hit her back.
But, you have to use a proportional amount of force.
Let’s say a 120-lb girl slaps you.
You can’t use martial arts to knock her out when you hit her back.
If a girl hits you, you can only use an equal amount of force to hit her back.
Note that when a guy hits a girl back, it’s still assault.
But “fighting back” can get considered as self-defense.
Meaning your assault charges can get dropped.
Slapping a girl in the face is considered assault and battery.
If a girl slaps you in the face, and you slap them back, it’s still battery.
Both persons will receive assault and battery charges from police officers.
But, the person who slaps someone in the face first is the aggressor.
And they cannot claim self-defense.
But the person who slapped back can make a self-defense claim.
And they have the opportunity to have their criminal charges dropped.
Self-defense laws for a man hitting a girl are complicated.
You have to be able to prove that you used reasonable force to stop the threat.
And, if you cause serious injury, you may get charged with aggravated assault.
When you escalate the force, you become the aggressor.
Let’s say that a girl slaps you.
And that you retaliate, punch her, and break her nose.
The girl hitting you was a simple battery.
But you escalated the amount of force used.
So, with the force that you used, that could get categorized as either:
You’ll need to seek legal advice from a criminal defense lawyer.
Self-defense is the right to prevent suffering force or violence.
It gives you the right to “remove an imminent threat.”
The self-defense laws allow you to counteract with equal force or violence.
But self-defense laws and cases are very complicated.
Each jurisdiction (state) has its own set of criminal laws on how to handle self-defense.
You should seek criminal law legal advice from a lawyer on how to handle:
No, it is not illegal to hit a girl in self-defense.
Let’s note how self-defense works.
Let’s say your girlfriend hits you and you hit her back.
You both will get assault and battery charges from law enforcement.
And you will both have to show up to court.
But, if you hit your girlfriend in self-defense, the courts will drop your criminal charges.
And only your girlfriend will have assault and battery criminal charges.
But, it’s only considered self-defense if danger was imminent.
“Danger” is not the woman verbally provoking you.
“Danger” is when a woman attacks you.
You can hit your girlfriend in self-defense if you use a reasonable amount of force.
“Reasonable” means an equal level of force that you were hit with in the first place.
Defending yourself allows you to potentially avoid criminal liability from your use of force.
“Potentially” because it depends on the scenario.
You HAVE to have:
In law, your girlfriend hitting you is a simple battery.
Simple battery is “offensive” physical contact, such as your girlfriend:
Some examples are your girlfriend hitting you or shoving you during an argument.
For punching someone to be battery, it has to be intentional.
(i.e., if you and your buddies are sparring, this is not criminal.)
Your actions become battery (not simple) when you’re intentionally causing:
Assault and battery are two separate criminal charges.
Assault does not have to include physical contact.
Assault is when an act MAY inflict physical harm to someone else.
Battery has to involve physical contact.
Battery is when an act DOES inflict physical harm to someone else.
The criminal charges for assault are:
The criminal charges for battery are:
Yes, your girlfriend hitting you is against the law.
If your girlfriend hits you, she will get a battery criminal charge.
These are the most common, related questions we get about this topic.
No, punching a woman in the face is not a felony.
Punching a woman in the face is a simple battery charge.
You will get a misdemeanor for punching a woman in the face.
Yes, if your girlfriend hits you, you can hit her back.
But it is not recommended because you will still get charged with simple battery.
If you are hitting your girlfriend back in self-defense, you will still get charged.
But, if you can prove it was self-defense, the charges will be dropped.
No, when your girlfriend yells at you, you cannot hit her.
You are the aggressor if you hit your girlfriend for yelling at you.
And you will face criminal charges that cannot get dropped with “self-defense.”
Verbal assault (yelling) is not a physical threat to your safety.
Self-defense is only allowed if you are “removing an imminent threat.”
“Imminent threat” means that you are in danger of getting harmed.
Verbal assault does not put you in danger.
You should only hit your girlfriend if she hits you first as a last resort in self-defense.
You should reach out to a criminal defense attorney if you have hit your girlfriend.
Even if it was in self-defense, you will still get criminal charges and a criminal record.
A good criminal defense law firm can get your charges dropped if it’s self-defense.